12 POINTS!Please Please Help I'm In A Really Awkward Situation...?

12 points? Wow! Ok, I'll give you my opinion, and keep in mind that it's only 1 guy's opinion, and there are many many people smarter than me in the world. First, it's obvious that you care about your sister a lot, and it shows how smart you are for trying to figure out the big picture. Maybe what your sister is doing is trying to distract people from paying attention to her size by dazzling them (in a negative way) with her clothes. Maybe she is saying to everyone HERE I AM, UGLY GIRL. TAKE A GOOD LOOK! She is expressing her pain and struggles on the one hand, but on the other I kind of applaud her for charging out there into the world and proclaiming THIS IS ME LOVE ME OR HATE ME. It's kind of a shallow world in a way where people judge others by their appearance more than by their intellect or personality, and maybe your sister is defying that kind of mentality...I don't know for sure. I understand that it's hard for you, but I think it's harder for your sister. And I understand that you want to help her, but are thinking that it's 2-way street, that she should try to meet your needs too. OK, here's the part maybe you won't agree with, but again it's just one guy's opinion: Stand up for your sister no matter what she decides to do, reject all of those who reject her, and you will develop such a precious bond in years to come, more precious than the greatest treasures. BUT, while you're sticking up for her rather than trying to change her, you can always drop some hints in a loving way about why she wasn't allowed into the club, why no boy asked her to dance, whatever. This is a tough one for the both of you, and I hope it all works out in time. Good luck.