Can anyone relate to this? we're losing our minds!!!?

i can't relate to it but i have watched A LOT of super nanny shows. take away his things until he treats you with respect. use the step where he sits there until he is allowed to move. ban him from tv, pc ect. ban him from playing outside, make him do something boring with you instead as punishment. dont spoil him with anything anymore. if you take away his things then hell soon learn to behave and be nice to get them back for good. also with the chart thing do u use money? like pennies to give him as a reward for good behaviour? sorry if i sound harsh! hopefully he'll soon learn.